My journey to here
Some years ago I was a gay man in a long-term monogamous relationship, with a ‘secure’ life in London. But something was missing. So I took a leap of faith and left it all to explore myself, and a wider world of experience.
As my sexual and intimate erotic encounters with other gay men increased I quickly realised something. That the deep connections being created during these interactions – even if only for a few hours – had a noticeably positive impact on my partners. Often enabling them to start to explore intimacy. Which felt unexpected and liberating for them in a world where gay sex can often be experienced as a functional exchange, lacking connection.
I became more conscious of the impact I was having by ‘just being me’, and following my instincts. And I realised that I wanted to learn to harness and channel these skills. So that I could more consciously and effectively help others.
This led me to train directly with two of the foremost teachers and leaders of erotic bodywork in the world. Joseph Kramer (founder of Sexological Bodywork, and The Body Electric), and Betty Martin (founder of the Wheel Of Consent).
I developed conSensuality as a way to bring together two of my passions: safe, interactive touch, and working with the male body and sexuality. Learn more about it
My professional credentials
I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker.
I am a Certified Wheel Of Consent® Workshop Facilitator, and a core faculty member of the School Of Consent.
I’m also a member of the UK professional Association of Somatic & Integrative Sexologists (ASIS), and all my work is insured through them, via BGi.
Why I do this work
This work is my way of helping set right what I see as a fundamental imbalance in the world.
Sexuality is how we come into the world, and it connects us with the source of life.
Intimacy is how we communicate, and communication is fundamental to being healthy, both as individuals and as a community.
Yet, for many gay men (or men who are attracted to other men), the ability to connect with both these crucial life elements is disconnected, missing, or even damaged. My work is part of a greater aim, to enable this world to become a more connected, healthier life-force.
I create a nurturing environment, helping people have personal transformative experiences. My energy is gentle, centred and still, with an ability to enable people to feel safe.